Sometimes it is fun to role play, as parents, or one parent with the Au Pair, to show the child the right way you want them to behave. They will think it is the funniest thing to see you pretend to be the child and in this way, it will stick in the child’s memory and you can refer back to the activity at a later time when you expect the child to obey. This is also a great way for Host Families to model what to do or how to handle a high strung child. Au Pairs can learn a great deal by using this strategy as a learning tool and are very eager to do what Host Families want.
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Model good behavior.
Preschoolers will be better listeners if they see that you are a good listener, too. Make it a habit to listen to your child as respectfully as you would to any adult. Look at her when she talks to you, respond politely, and let her finish without interrupting whenever possible. While it may seem like a tall order when you’re cooking dinner and your toddler is being especially chatty, try not to walk away from her or turn your back on her while she’s talking. As with so many other behaviors, the old saw “Do as I say, not as I do” has no value when teaching your children to listen.
Numerous books provide sound advice in this area. Among the most popular are How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, Discipline Without Spanking or Shouting, by Jerry Wyckoff and Barbara Unell, and Raising Your Spirited Child, by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka.